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FitFluential LLC compensated me for this post. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
My 2013 literally ended with a “BANG“! On Friday December 13, 2013, I was standing in my office at Max fitness when I heard the most violent and sharp “POP”. I was a 12B (combat engineer) in the army, and immediately my training from Ft Leonardwood was recalled in the split seconds that followed the sound of an explosion. The room was instantly filled with powder residue and my ears were ringing as I walked around the small office disoriented and confused. I remember thinking that I must have set off a small device designed as a prank. A few seconds later, still confused, I realized if it were a prank, something had gone horribly wrong.
My legs were aching and bleeding badly, like someone took a baseball bat to my knees, yet still I stood. I never thought to call out for help, as I was still dazed in my office with the door shut and the light off. I’m not sure how long I would have stood there bleeding trying to make sense out of this if one of my employees hadn’t thought to check on me. He entered the office and immediately says “oh Steve, you’ve been shot”. As much as I was totally confused about having been shot when I was by myself in my office, I was relieved to know why I had holes in both legs.
He laid me down and we began working on getting the bleeding stopped, and my staff called paramedics for help. As I started making sense out of the gun shot, realizing it wasn’t a small bomb, I was able to calm my mind a little in the bloody smoke filled office. With the confusion subsiding, my legs began to start hurting. And hurt they did… The 40 caliber hollow point round had come from an adjacent office through my legs and continued into another office finally stopping in a metal cabinet. The powder residue that seemed like an explosion was merely the powder from the bullet going through drywall. With everything coming together in my head, this is the point where I was finally calming down, except for the pain… I picked up my phone and started taking “selfies”.
Having a degree in physical therapy I know the damage and destruction that an accident like this can have on arteries, bone and nerves. My legs felt paralyzed and I was bleeding from both thighs. At the time I was thinking the worse. Did it hit my femoral artery? My leg hurt with an intensity I’ve never felt. Surely both femurs were broken in pieces. Hitting nerves never entered my mind until the bleeding slowed. Oh, the relief that overwhelmed me as I sat up and could move both feet. Praise God! I’m not paralyzed, just wounded. The bleeding began to slow, which confirmed no arterial damage, and I was able to bare weight as the paramedics put me onto the gurney for transport.
Super long story short, I spent the rest of the night in the ER learning how blessed I truly was that both legs were just soft tissue damage. How could a 40 caliber hollowpoint round from about 5 feet away go through both legs and not cause any permanent damage? I will tell you how – but that’s another blog for another time.
I wanted to tell you this story for a few reasons. One, first and foremost, how can any of us ever deny that our maker is merciful and full of grace to watch over us, even in the times we let our guard down the most. Second, no matter what circumstances we deal with throughout our lives, we HAVE to believe we are allowed to endure them to make us stronger – emotionally, physically, mentally, and yes… spiritually! There is not one single thing you’ve ever experienced in your life that could not be used to make you a more loving husband, a better father, a better friend, or even a better athlete. Reebok has a slogan that me and other bloggers use when we use social media, and never has it meant more to me than these last 2 weeks. #LIVEWITHFIRE
This my friends, is my plea to you. LIVE WITH FIRE! In everything you do, resolve to yourself that everything you experience can make you better. Yes, even the messes we make ourselves. Those are especially the best in making us better. I no longer believe in coincidence, or luck (good or bad). I believe in “providence” that all things can work together for good. But that is completely up to us and what we believe about our situation!
NO whining, no unforgiveness. Be patient and think about your circumstances and how they can soon (not right now, but on the on the end of whatever it is) grow you into who you are supposed to become! Live with fire, take those lemons, and make lemonade!!!!
PS: A very special thanks to Reebok for the timely delivery of these super comfy shoes that I would highly recommend the next time you are shot in both legs and can’t put on regular shoes. lol These are the Reebok Crossfit Nanossage. They are designed to help you decompress post workout (or post shootout!). They are even machine washable, just in case you get
blood, I mean sweat, on them. 😉 They are so soft you will want to purrrrr.
Inspired by the foam roller, this shoe is built on a natural last and features a 4mm drop with ultra soft cushioned foam. Dual web pull entry allows for easy on, easy off – thank goodness for me, they were indeed easy on, easy off! The perfect recovery shoe!!
The temporary pleasure of sin will never out weigh the devastating long term consequences, as the temporary pain of training will never out weigh the amazing long term consequences!
Bonnie and I were both brought up in the south, and for many of us that means that we were in church everytime the doors were open. One of the phrases you hear a lot in the church is “we really hate SIN”. Don’t tune me out, I’m about to make a point. As much as church, Bon and I in our adult lives spent a lot of time in the gym as well. One of the phrases we hear all of time at the gym is “I love my workout”. So “we hate sin and love our workouts” hmmm
Hate Sin? Not at all.
We love sin, its exciting, feels good, it’s attractive, it taste good, it’s a total rush… No we don’t hate sin. What we hate is the consequences of our sin. Sin can lead to drug addiction. divorce, obesity, disease, or even death – not to mention total seperation from the Dude who created you. (another blog, another time). But to say we hate sin, well, that just isn’t true – but to truly hate the devastating affects of sin is such a huge reality it isn’t a lie to say “I hate sin”. Hold on, here it comes…
Love your workout? Not truly…
Right now I am doing 315 pound shruggs. I think I just popped every vertebrae in my back, just ripped a callous, my legs are trembling and I have sweat in my eye and a charlie horse in my calf. Love my workout? …not so much.
HOWEVER, I absolutely love the consequences that I experience from working out. Health, aesthetics, energy, increased self esteem, confidence, the ablility to defend myself and my family against danger, and vitality are all considered bliss – directly related to the suffering and drudgery of the afformentioned workout. Knowing the amazing results of hard training, I can honestly say, “I love my workouts”!
The same way a person who has been caught up in SIN becomes so hurt and disgusted with that lifestyle, another can honestly say they love working out becuase of the amazing results and positive influence, that it can acutally be said, “I love my workout”
In short...The temporary pleasure of sin will never out weigh the devastating long term consequences, as the temporary pain of training will never out weigh the amazing long term consequences!
How do we change our belief system to be able to honestly say… “I love training”?
2. Visualize the prize (end game) seeing the goal as if its complete.
3. Make a plan that is realistic and effective to meet your goal.
4. Grow a pair. Dont be afraid to “gut it out”. Know it will be worth it.
5. Start over a million times – but dont quit, not even once!
Truth Chair…. Ready? Lately I have been on hiatus from the TV world. This, for me, means backing off a little on the cardio and losing a tad of momentum in my training. Oh yah, then there is the damn diet. Who cares, it may be a month before I am back on camera. I mean, what could it hurt? WRONG…. DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!!
Even though the thought of being on TV does give an added push to stay motivated in your diet and exercise, it isn’t the only reason to live to a higher standard of training. I love to hear compliments from people who understand the struggle, and see me as someone beating the “URGE”. Ok… the “naked truth”. Read the rest of this entry